Josh

When I called Josh and asked what he'd like to do, I was a little nervous. What would I find to do in Topeka on a Wednesday night? Watch paint dry? Walk down the barren and deserted Kansas Avenue? He suggested we get dinner so we could talk and get to know each other. He also said he'd drive from Olathe to Topeka (about an hour drive). This dude was getting cool points.

I decided to go to The Globe in downtown Topeka. I love this restaurant, and since it's not extremely busy I knew it'd be a good place to actually talk. It's really difficult to have a conversation when you're talking really loud to be heard over the music/chatter/whatever.

So over our excellent Indian food we talked. Josh is at KU studying mechanical engineering. There are lots of different engineers, and a mechanical one is a "jack of all trades," however he's interested in energy conservation. Yes, I find that completely awesome. Planners and engineers have to work together a lot, since planners plan but don't build (I guess you could say that engineers build but don't plan....). He shared the story of his sister getting proposed to before they headed out on a family trip to Florida. I shared that I feel very strongly that proposals should only happen when you know what the answer is going to be and should be done in a way that the girl would approve of (i.e. don't do it in public if she'd hate it).

Guess what else? I grew up in Pocatello and he served his mission in Pocatello! No way, right?! Idaho truly is a very cool place.

The night was still young, so when we were done eating I suggested we get ice cream. I always think ice cream is a good idea, and Josh didn't disagree. So we headed to Dairy Queen, which is a pretty happenin' place in Topeka. The weather was perfect. We ate our Blizzards as we talked about all sorts of things--movies we've seen, movies we want to see, calligraphy, book binding, sewing, fixing things, red devil eyes, waiting for missionaries, my fat cat, being crafty, people who can get fanatical about tv shows. I may have went into a long diatribe about Brett Ratner and George Lucas. Sometimes that happens.

I asked some strangers to take our picture. At this
point our blizzards were completely eaten, so we are pretending that we are still eating them. Don't we look believable?

Josh says he's shy, but I didn't get that from him at all. Conversation was easy and it felt like we were old friends. It was one of those really great evenings. He's a very cool guy and I'm very glad our mutual friends put us in contact with one another. This blog post has not done him near enough justice. To that I say, "Fair enough."

Blair

When Blair emailed me this is what he offered to do for our date: get ice cream then ride a tandem bike down Mass Street in Lawrence. Yes and yes. I've had a lot of ice cream in my life, but I've never rode a tandem bike. And there was no way I'd pass up either.

Blair showed up at Sylas and Maddy's on his tandem bike. He actually built the tandem bike himself, following a youtube video that showed how to weld two bikes together. He used it in college to provide rides to other students. He's given over a hundred rides on it. He also own a unicycle. Pretty cool.

As he went into the bathroom to wash off some grease from the bike, I heard a female say my name. I looked over to see my friend Paige having ice cream with a friend. Lawrence is a small town. Plus, Sylas and Maddy's is very popular. Blair and I each got some ice cream and took a small walk to a Japanese garden off Mass Street. Kids were playing in the park, running around playing tag and making noise.

We finished our ice cream and Blair asked if I was ready to ride. Yes! I was! We got on the bike, went down Mass Street, crossed the river, and hooked onto the levee trail that parallels the Kansas River. And it was beautiful. The weather was perfect and we chatted easily as we rode along. During our email exchanges we had played two truths and a lie, so we spent the time discussing what was true and what wasn't. Blair ran the Chicago marathon. He danced with strangers in a public square in China. He designs audio speakers that cost $25,000.  He bought a house before he bought a cell phone.

 

 What's great about Blair is that he sees the need and importance of travel and friends. He talked of numerous trips with his buddies kite-boarding and driving all night to Texas. I like that he worked  and played. He also is part of various biking groups in Lawrence. We rode back to Lawrence and stopped to check out the sunset. We were able to admire both the setting sun and the almost-full moon. It was such a lovely day and evening with excellent company!

The tandem bike gets a lot of attention. It works when both people are pedaling, making the ride easier. And that's how anything in life is.

Also, Blair bought Tamara's book! And she wrote a personal message in it! Very cool. 

Nathan

Date number two! Germanfest with Nathan! We had a great time, eating brats and German potato salad, playing 'Head or Tails' to benefit the school, listening to the polka music, scoping out the jewelry and silent auction, and enjoying the perfect weather.

Nathan grew up in Lawrence and is from a very large family. He currently lives in Emporia where he works as a speech therapist in a local school. He likes his job because he gets the summers off and is able to travel and see his family. Nathan has a great sense of humor and we quickly fell into a joking pattern with each other. He's funny and picks up on things talked about earlier. It's always nice when someone is listening. He even remember the name of my childhood best friend who lives in Topeka.

             Playing Heads or Tails                                         The evening's MC.


We ran into some people I know, one of them also named Nathan, and we spent a little bit of time talking with them. I bought a Germfest t-shirt while Nathan bought a light-up braided headband for his niece. Or so he says; I think he might want it for himself. At the end of the night we walked up and down Seward Ave, the main drag in Oakland, and talked about the buildings and counted the 7Up signs. We ended the night, perfectly, with ice cream cones.

Second Dates

It has been suggested that I should clarify what these dates are. What they are not is throw-away dates. I truly want to get to know the guys I go out with! They are legit dates! And when the month ends I would love to have a second date(s). :)

Jeremy

I knew right away I'd like Jeremy. There had been a phone number miscommunication, and by the time I got his correct number and called it was nearly six o'clock. Our plans were to attend a Royals game. That started at 7:10. In Kansas City. When he answered the phone, and I urgently explained why I was just now calling him, he wasn't phased at all. He just rolled with it, offered to still meet me at the game (he was already in KC), and was overall positive about it.

Jeremy is a professor at Emporia State University, where he teaches violin and viola and conducts the orchestra. His life has been busy as he finished school and started his career, and he's just now finding time for a social life. He recently had been traveling to various beaches, as the summer is when he has the most free time. He's also a Royals fan, and was able to answer not only my questions but those of the kid in front of us. We also agree that booing the opposing team is uncalled for.

Baseball games are a good sporting event for a date--it's easy to sit and chat while the game is going on and not miss too much. Jeremy is real and authentic in what he says and does; I felt like I was just myself the whole evening. We cheered and talked and even tried to get on the jumbotron by dancing in our seats. Unfortunately, we never made it. We were also attacked by the massive amount of bugs that were enjoying the warm weather with us.

The Royals made an epic (maybe not quite epic) comeback in the 9th to extend the game into extra innings. Sadly, though, the Royals couldn't keep their magic going and lost the game in the 11th inning. It didn't matter though because we had a great time anyway.

No Internet Stalking

As my friends have sent out emails asking for dates on my behalf (or at least for a guy to contact me for a date), I have to stop myself from immediately internet stalking them. Normally, whenever I meet anyone, I do some quick checking on Facebook to get a feel for them. I know that many of of do this.

However, Facebook never tells the full story of someone. It can also many times provide me with reasons to not have interest in someone, be it their political beliefs or the television shows they watch or the amount of friends they have. This is a huge disservice to them--we are so much more than what our Facebook profiles show! It also allows us to feel like we "know" someone without ever actually talking with them.

I want to get to know the guys I go on dates with by meeting them and actually talking with them. So I am not internet stalking any of the names I'm given for dates. I'll leave the getting-to-know-you portion to the date.

Getting Started

I lived in New York City once. I met a friend there who embarked on 31 Dates in 31 Days to get herself out of dating rut after another failed relationship. In April I turned 31 and realized I was in a situation quite similar to hers--another ended relationship, wondering why I kept making the same mistakes.

So here I am, ready to take on my own adventure to change my dating and habits and go back to the basics. The goal is to go on at least 15 first dates in the month of June. More would be great, so if you know someone give him my info and I'll contact him!

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